How do you know?
I had a conversation with Twisted friday night and i'm still wondering - how do you know when the person you are with is "the one"?
I hate that freaking phrase. I don't know if there are soulmates in the world. I do know there are people that you are extremely compatible with or people that you can't go near with a 10ft. pole.
He also asked me if I love Biker Boy or am I IN love with Biker Boy? I honestly don't know. It's only been four months. After two and a half weeks he professed his love for me. It took me three months to say it, even though I think I knew a long time before. But IN love? I know I would do anything for him. I love his intelligence and his enthusiasm for life. I love the fact that during my psychotic episodes he can calm me down. When I am with him, I love the way he makes me feel about myself. When we're apart I feel like a part of me is missing.
We jumped into this relationship head first. There has been no romance, no pining for my affections. Instead our weekends together are filled with normal every day motions. Shopping, cooking meals, etc. I wish we had the romance. I know he loves me, but he doesn't show it very often. He tells me every day, but it would be nice if he would do a romantic/nice gesture once in a while. And i'm not even talking chocolate and roses, i'm talking about cleaning his house before I show up for the weekend.
I know i've blogged alot of frustrations here about him. But I think it's because i'm trying to find more things wrong with him than the good. Since we only see each other every two to three weeks, I have a tendency to overanalyze ALOT. Twisted says I need therapy because i'm "damaged" and I completely agree. I have a tarnished outlook on marriage and love.
So to the peanut gallery - if you have a significant other - did you just "know" or did it take some time? Do you think everyone has a soulmate? Please enlighten me!
5 comments:
Ordinarily, I'd say that if you need to ask yourself "how do I know if he/she's the one?" then they're NOT the one. My S/O has a friend who went from a I HATE him I CAN'T STAND this guy kind of relationship to marrying the guy, so.....
Personally, I think most people "just know" and the rest are just too picky and overanalyze the whole situation.
I thought he was the one, but now i'm not so sure... I know i'm overanalyzing, but I can't help it.
You did not actually say if you knew right away if your s/o was the one - were they or did it take some time?
I wouldn't say right off the bat, but it wasn't all that long. We were engaged within 7 months, so. It's not something where I said "oh yeah, she's it..." when I met her, but it didn't take too long to figure it out.
I have to agree with joe...same thing for me here. Took a couple of months, but we were dating and seeing each other almost every other day.
I don't believe there is "the one" for anyone. There are many people in this world whom we may be compatible with. And sometimes married people aren't all that happy - it's just easier to stay married then get divorced.
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